Good morning, and welcome back to Beautiful You. My name is Becca Starr, and I'm your host, here to remind you of how perfect and beautiful you already are. You don't need to do much, but I do give you some very cool strategies to tap into your potential.
Today, we're going to be talking about anxiety and how to walk through it.
This week's episode is going to be a little more personal. I've been experiencing a lot of anxiety lately. It's turned into a few weeks now that I've been feeling this way, and by wishing it away or thinking positive thoughts - that's not how it works with anxiety - and I wanted to share what is working for me and strategies that might help you too.
One of the best ways we can first approach anxiety is to acknowledge that we have it. Believe it or not, it's actually really helpful to look closer at the anxiety, what the cause of it might be, what's at the root of it, and writing about it.
This isn't something I suggest doing on your own because as you know, if you have anxiety, it can feel very isolating. And it might be very helpful to see a counselor or, at the very least, talk to a trusted confidant, someone who helps you get a higher perspective.
One of the best things about having a coach or a counselor is writing about my anxiety and looking deeper into it, but then sharing it with somebody else. And in doing so, it shines a little more light and acceptance onto the root cause in the issues.
Sometimes anxiety lasts a few days. It could last a few weeks, and unfortunately, for many people, it could last years. And it's a matter of using coping strategies in ways in which to improve the quality of your life.
It's a misconception to think that we can power our way through it or just think positively, and that's going to make it better. There's really no truth to that.
The best thing to do, very first and foremost, is to acknowledge and accept that we're feeling anxiety when we're feeling it.
It will actually help to make it better just by paying a little more honest attention to it.
So what do you do when you acknowledge it? And you can accept it, but it is very overwhelming. What's next?
The best thing I can suggest is to find that person. After you've found one person, find another person.
Friendships and people in my life who I trust to just be myself when I am feeling good, bad, ugly, beautiful, funny, sad - all of me. When I am experiencing all of my human emotions, I need to know that the people in my life are trustworthy in that they accept me just as I accept them.
Do you have people in your life that you can really rely on for that level of helping you walk through all of the experiences of being in this world?
Where we live geographically can affect us. If we live somewhere in a beautiful supportive community, we will experience the effects of that. If we live in a city, we might be sensitive to that. If we are in a certain home with family dynamics, whatever that looks like - it’s going to have an affect on us.
Taking small actions really helps in walking through more challenging times and struggles I'm facing.
If you have the inspiration to attend something, have courage to say, "Yes" to that and the follow-through to show up. Join a MeetUp group, and go to it when they have a scheduled event.
I find that for myself when I show up, and I am around other people, focusing on something more positive, it really helps me to get out of the thought patterns that I'm in.
And even if the moment I get in my car, I feel the weight of my anxiety or my negative thoughts come back, that's okay. I had a reprieve from it.
What that means is I need to continue to reach out to people that might be able to help me through it.
One of the most important things I'd like to leave you with today is to not feel like you have to go through this alone. Girl, if you want to reach out to me, you email me. You email [email protected].
You can tell me all your problems. I'm not going anywhere with them. I might ask you if you want to be anonymously interviewed on air because as we listen to each other, we can see things that we cannot see in ourselves.
Practicing these strategies and having a coach and a mentor and my superstar team around me that I needed to build, over the course of years in my life, to improve my mindset and the quality of my life - that's how I am able to do what I do.
And this episode was important for me because I realize how much we are suffering in silence. I don't want you to do that.
I don't you to think that that is the way it needs to be. I want there to be more voices in this world that are speaking up about anxiety and depression, and supporting each other.
It's easy to look at social media and think that everyone has it together besides us. You have a special place here in my heart and by listening to my podcast. I'm sharing things here that I don't post on social media. Social media is a very broad spectrum of people.
In my private Facebook group of women entrepreneurs and here in my podcast, I'm okay with sharing it here. And also, I am very hopeful that it's going to help somebody that needs to hear this today.
I really want you to know how perfect and beautiful you are. It's okay to think and feel however you're feeling.